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How To Get Women – Both Ways (Part 2)

admin — Sat, 22 Oct 2011 13:08:10 +0000

This post is a continuation of How To Get Women – Part 1

Core Difference No.2

Women aren’t hung up on being consistent.

Closely aligned with Core Difference No.1 is the fact that being consistent is not as important to women as it is to men. This of course goes hand-in-hand with using their feelings as a frame of reference. Feelings change and therefore a woman’s outlook on something can change as well. This is something that women are quite comfortable with.

Men on the other hand are more prone to form an opinion on something and then stand rigidly by that opinion even if it no longer serves them to do so. This is because they put a higher value on consistency than they do on whatever else happens to be at stake.

And what practical seductive application does this little piece of knowledge have? Men who are consistently successful with women know that they need to be flexible and roll with the punches a little. They know that women are apt to change their minds on various things – such as whom they find attractive - so they’re not easily put off by an initial negative reaction. By the same token they don’t rigidly hold to an opinion if doing so means the fun is completely sucked out of the conversation and its sexual potential completely squandered. They’ll change tack and keep the tone light and not get hung up on labouring their point.

Core Difference No. 3

Women aren’t as impressed with the big show

When men are looking to impress each other they will quite often put on “the show”. You know what it looks like: the chest goes out and they then go on and on about themselves and their exploits. Now this impresses some men and it doesn’t impress others. But what I can guarantee you is that it sure-as-hell doesn’t impress women.

In fact going on about yourself is more likely to result in her trying to take you down (if she’s that way inclined) or becoming bored with you than it will in you impressing her.

Once again there’s a frame of reference issue here: men believing that impressive to one means impressive to all. The woman however is more likely to be asking herself “what’s he attempting to hide with all this bragging about his exploits?”

The man who regularly seduces women will do so because he is confident and has personal authority. He doesn’t need to back up his authority with stories about himself; he just naturally is authorative.

If you get that there are fundamental differences between men and women and that this necessitates a flexibility in both your attitude and approach when attempting to seduce them, then you will have taken a vital step towards “getting” them.

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If you want to know how to get women, then you first need to determine what type of woman you are dealing with. There are some psychologically tested methods for doing this. The best coach I’ve found in this arena is Vin DiCarlo. His Pandora’s Box program shows you how to instantly read any woman’s mind. Once you’ve done that, you’ll adjust your seduction approach depending on what type of woman she is. But don’t let me steal Vince’s thunder …

>>Click Here To Visit Pandora’s Box<<

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How To Get Women – Both Ways (Part 1)

admin — Sat, 22 Oct 2011 12:36:03 +0000

One of the more interesting questions I get asked is “how can I get women?” to which I always shoot back my own clarifying question: “Do you mean ‘get’ as in ‘understand’ or ‘get’ as in ‘get with’?”

Now, almost without exception the person asking the question means how can they “get with” women but what is interesting is that if they understood the answer to the first question (understand women) then they wouldn’t even need to ask the second question because the answer would become self apparent.

So let’s have a closer look at the first question and talk of it in terms of understanding women and how in doing that you will find that “getting with” women suddenly doesn’t seem so problematic.

I sometimes get scoffed at when I use a generic phrase like “understanding women” as if “women” were some homogenous blob with a set of detailed instructions attached, instead of a lot of individuals which is of course what they are. But the fact remains that they all have two arms and two legs, are more connected with their emotions than is the case with men, and will also prioritise things differently to men.

Certainly when it comes down to dealing with individuals, individual characteristics will come to the fore but that doesn’t negate the fact that there are some universal traits that apply to the vast majority of females – the understanding of which will lessen the “mystery” that some men continue to ascribe to women.

The key reason that a lot of men don’t understand women is that they continue to look at them and even judge them through a male frame of reference. What I propose to do is point out some of the core differences between men and women and then show you how an understanding of those differences will better enable you to attract and seduce women.

Core Difference No. 1

Men will look to the logic of a situation to access its truth whereas women will look to how they feel to find its truth.

Truth, like everything else, is relative. Whoever proclaims something as true only does so because it matches up against a pre-determined frame of reference. A person may have an encyclopaedia as his frame of reference and will therefore judge anything that he reads in that encyclopaedia as being “true.” Someone else may have her University professor as a frame of reference and will hold anything that professor says as being “true.”

At a high level, most men will adjudge something as being “true” if it all comes together logically. Women however don’t place as much value on logic. This is not to say that they ignore it but they don’t treat it as the “be all and end all”. They are more likely to assess how they feel about something and then use that as their barometer of truth.

And how does all this translate into “getting with” women. Quite simply, the man who produces good feeling in a woman is more likely to score with her than the man who presents his wares logically.

I’ve seen and heard of it time and time again: good looking men with steady jobs and steadier personalities who aren’t getting the women they want because they present their credentials as if they by themselves were enough. The problem is their frame of reference. They’ve heard women bemoan the fact that there are no “decent” guys around and they assume that all they need to do therefore is present a model of decency and that these same women will flock to them. This is taking a logical approach and it’s success will always be limited.

The man who is attuned to the female frame of reference however, and concentrates on making her feel good irrespective of what credentials he does or doesn’t have, will always have a greater chance of getting her because … he gets her.

To read the rest of this topic go to How To Get Women – Part II

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How To Pick Up And Seduce Beautiful Women

admin — Sat, 27 Aug 2011 04:54:10 +0000

It’s interesting that anyone should focus on “how to pick up beautiful women” as opposed to just picking up “women” – as if “beautiful women” were an entirely different species to other “women” and therefore required an entirely different approach.

Whilst there are some psychological characteristics inherent in beautiful women that maybe aren’t as prominent in their plainer looking sisters, they still have exactly the same needs and can therefore be wooed in the same way.

But having said that – there are a couple of subconscious processes that are constantly being performed by women, and probably even more so by beautiful women – and if you are aware of these processes, then you are in a position to use them to your seductive advantage.

The two subconscious processes that women are constantly performing whilst interacting with men are “confirmation” and “validation“.

Confirmation is when she confirms to herself that certain assumptions that she’s made about you are true. She will be building a story about you in her head and every now and again she will want to check that the story she’s putting together is indeed accurate. Hence she will ask you a question and your answer will allow her to confirm what she is already thinking, or not, in which case she may ask another clarifying question to confirm her new thought.

Validation is when she looks to you to confirm thoughts that she has about herself. This can be a potent tool for the seducer, particularly when it comes to good looking women. Let’s look at why:

In the normal course of a day a beautiful woman will attract a number of favorable looks and comments from the men that come into her life. Each one of these looks and comments goes towards validating what she most probably believes about herself – that she is an attractive female.

Now what happens when a man comes into her life who doesn’t automatically compliment her? If the contact is a fleeting one, then it will soon be forgotten but if the contact is an extended one, then you will soon find a situation where she begins to crave the compliment because she needs the validation from everybody. You’d probably think that if 98% of men gave her the validation, she wouldn’t be that fussed about what the other 2% think. Not true. The dissonance created by a man not automatically doing what every other man does can really set her on edge.

Ever seen an ordinary or even ugly guy with a stunner on his arm? There are 2 things I can guarantee you: 1. He had loads of personal authority and; 2. He didn’t automatically lavish compliments on her when they first met. If he had, then he would have served his validatory purpose and been dispensed with.

So how do we use this little known fact for the purpose of picking up beautiful women? Easy, we withhold our compliments until late in the game. As the conversation wears on she will begin to crave the compliment and will start trying to impress you.

When it does come time to give her the compliment do so as if the thought that she is attractive has just struck you and that you’re surprised to be actually expressing it. Suddenly break from whatever you’re saying – deliver the compliment – and then go back to what you were talking about.

You will be stunned at how powerful this technique is when you begin to use it.

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If there’s one thing that I’ve learnt in the seduction caper it is that there is no such things as a one-size-fits-all approach. If you want to know “how to seduce beautiful women” then you need to go that step further and determine exactly what type of beautiful woman you are dealing with. And knowing what type of woman you are dealing with before you even approach her will give you an automatic seduction advantage.

Apart from what I’ve observed myself as to what does and doesn’t work when it comes to picking up beautiful women, Vince DiCarlo’ Pandora’s Box program; is the best seduction guide that I’ve come across yet. Vin shows you how to automatically psychologically profile a girl and then gives you the exact steps you need to pick her up depending in what “type” of woman she is. But you can learn more by checking out Pandora’s Box for yourself ….

>>Click Here To Visit Pandora’s Box<<

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How To Know If A Woman Likes You – The “Yes/No” Paradox

admin — Mon, 22 Aug 2011 13:21:58 +0000

A paradox is a seemingly absurd or contradictory statement and it plays a vital role in most seductions.

If there’s one thing apart from not approaching women in the first place, that trips most guys up it is the yes/no paradox, so let’s look at it closely so we can be sure that you don’t get caught out. It breaks down like this:

You Need To Let A Woman Verbally Say “NO” To You Whilst She Is Non-Verbally Saying “YES”

Confused? You shouldn’t be if you’ve been paying close attention to other points that I’ve been making throughout this website. Let’s recap on some of those points:

1. Women convey more information non-verbally than they do verbally.

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2. Women are scared

Any potential sexual encounter will bring with it a shadow of vulnerability for both parties. For the guy (if he’s doing the approaching) there’s the chance he may get rejected. For the girl (if she’s being approached) there’s the chance he may deem her to be too “easy” or even a “slut.” (N.B. These aren’t the only two areas of vulnerability but I don’t want to stray too far from the point.)

It’s this shadow of vulnerability which on many occasions takes what could be a straightforward transaction and turns it into something complicated.

So how does this vulnerability (or “being scared”) play out in a seduction scenario? Simple: a woman will want to appear to be rejecting some or all of your advances so that you never get to a point where you think she’s “easy” BUT at the same time, if there’s an initial spark of attraction, then she’ll also want to keep you on the leash.

How does she do this? She lets you know non-verbally (via body language and tone of voice) that she’s interested whilst she’s telling you verbally that she isn’t.

So once again, you need to pay very close attention to how she’s saying things as well as to what she’s saying.

There’s a big difference between:

“No” (and I really mean “no) and;

“No” (but ask me again in half an hour)

The words used are the same but the tone of voice in each scenario will be entirely different.

I need to stress a key point here: that of CONGRUENCE. The “Yes/No” Paradox is all about picking up on the incongruencies between what she’s saying and how she’s saying it. It’s all part of the continuing dance. If however she’s telling you “no” in a hostile or cold tone of voice and her body language is closed, then there is congruency between what she’s saying and how she’s saying it. DON’T continue pressing your suit in this scenario: that will be just straight harassment or even rape if you take it too far]

But back to the Yes/No Paradox.

Don’t be discouraged if a woman says “no” to your advances whilst everything else about her whilst she’s around you seems to be saying “yes.” Just continue being you and doing what you’re doing until she’s said “no” enough to satisfy herself that she’s been no easy conquest. Eventually she’ll come around to yes/yes.

You may find a situation where she is really stringing things out and you need to make a judgement call. Playing “hard to get” can get out of hand and comes about when either party isn’t sufficiently attuned to the other’s body language or they’re into game playing to cover up some insecurity or another.

You need to decide in this scenario whether you want to persist. Be prepared NOT to persist. Sometimes if she gets an inkling that you may no longer be interested in the chase and about to move on, then she’ll drop all pretence and make herself available. This is basically combating “hard to get” with your own “hard to get”. Once again it’s about changing the dynamic of the dance to steer it in a new direction.

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Subliminal Seduction – How To Seduce Women Subliminally

admin — Sat, 20 Aug 2011 13:31:56 +0000

It’s laughable to consider that the release of “Subliminal Seduction” by Wilson Bryan Key almost 3 decades ago should’ve caused such a stir. Wilson highlighted how advertisers would insert subliminal sexual imagery into their print advertising in an endeavour to boost sales.

Why the stir? Because people were being manipulated without their knowing about it. Shock! Horror!

And why is that laughable? Because that is what has been happening for eons anyway, on any occasion that a man and woman have first felt sexual attraction for each other.

A point that often gets missed when people sit down to try and categorise attraction is that: “attraction always happens first; the reasons for the attraction get attached later.”

Attraction is ultimately about vibrational harmony. We literally feel attracted to those whom we are “in synch” with. We initially experience this being “in synch” as a feeling, not as a thought. We can certainly come up with reasons as to why we may be attracted to someone once we do start thinking about it but that doesn’t detract from the fact that we “felt” the attraction first.

“What does this all have to do with me and her and birds and bees?” I hear you ask? Quite simply, if you realise that all initial attraction happens below the threshold of consciousness (i.e. it is subliminal) then you are forearmed with knowledge that will allow you to see if a woman is sexually attracted to you before she’s even consciously realised it. She will initially communicate her attraction via non-verbal channels. The master seducer is always tuned into these channels and uses the signals he receives here as his cues to action.

In fact, when it comes to gauging how any particular seduction is going the master seducer will place much more stock in how a woman moves when she is near him and the way in which she speaks to him, than he will in the actual content of her conversation. This is not to say that he is not interested in what she is saying but it that he knows where he should concentrate his attention in terms of ascertaining her current level of interest.

So that’s one side of the equation: pay attention to the non-verbal signals that a female gives in order to work out her current level of sexual interest. The other side of the equation is to give off your own non-verbal signals to indicate your sexual intent to her.

The other side of the equation is to give off your own non-verbal signals to indicate your sexual intent to her.

There are 3 methods that will allow you to achieve this aim – each of which will do the trick without her being conscious of it. Let’s discuss each in turn.

Body Language

I could spend pages writing about all the subtle variations that are available to the seducer here but if I had to break it down into some simple starting components it would be these:

a) Move into her personal space – You don’t want to be doing this until she’s given you some initial sign of interest but once she’s done so you be sure to start subliminally warming her up by getting inside her personal space. The safest way to start is by touching one of her personal extensions such as her cell phone or handbag and seeing how she reacts. If there is no adverse reaction on her part then the coast is clear to move physically closer.

b) Create a dissonant dynamic – Fancy term but all it means is to physically move in close and then pull away. It’s the not being constantly one thing or the other (i.e near or far) that creates the dissonance and makes you as the seducer harder to categorize and therefore more intriguing.

Tone of Voice

Regardless of the content of your conversation it is your tone of voice that will convey what you are really thinking. Use your tone of voice as a tool to indicate sexual intent. Keep it warm and at times cheeky but above all make sure that it is playful. This all goes to creating a vibe that is conducive to sexual congress.

Make Her Feel Good About Herself

This is the number one rule of seduction and the ultimate subliminal tool: Help people feel good about themselves and it automatically follows that they will feel good about you. You could be discussing anything but if at the same time you’re allowing her to feel more at ease with herself then it follows she will be more favorably disposed towards you.

So there you have it. When you know that attraction is a thing that first happens below the threshold of consciousness, you have within your grasp a very powerful tool because you can consciously apply methods that will affect her in a positive way without her being consciously aware of it. This really puts you in the driver’s seat in any seduction scenario.

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As with learning any new skill – it always helps to have a coach. One of the best coaches I’ve come across in the seduction arena is Vin DiCarlo. His Pandora’s Box program shows you how to instantly read any woman’s mind and then subtly influence the way she feels about you, before you even make a move. Vin’s program is indeed the ultinate in subliminal seduction …

>>Click Here To Visit Pandora’s Box<<

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How To Seduce A Woman

admin — Sat, 20 Aug 2011 09:07:53 +0000

I find it interesting what phrases men use when they’re asking me for advice on how to seduce women. They predominantly fall into the “how to seduce women” camp or the “how to seduce a woman” camp. Now you may feel that the difference between the two phrases comes down to nothing more than semantics BUT there is a subtle difference in the psychology behind each of the questions.

When a man asks how he can “seduce women” his thoughts are usually along the lines of how he can go about securing multiple partners whereas someone interested in securing “a woman” is usually interested in just one woman (or at least one woman to start with!) Once again, you may be thinking semantics, but the point is that women can differentiate between the vibe given off by a man who is interested in “women” as opposed to a man who is interested in her as “a woman”.

There are two major principles that you need to adhere to when seducing a woman:

1. Make her feel good (and specifically feel good about herself) when she is with you and;
2. Make her feel unique.

Regardless of what tactics and techniques you employ when engaging with a woman the end result you’re looking to achieve is that she feels good whenever she’s around you. If you achieve that, then she will want to continue being around you and will start looking to ways in which she can intensify those good feelings i.e. she will want to have things taken into the physical realm.

But the point of this article is to focus more on the second point – which is about making her feel “unique”. I’ve seen a lot of guys who consider themselves to be players whose high energy approach can certainly engage a woman (or a group of women) but they do it in such a way that women quickly cotton onto the fact that they’re being “played”. Does that mean that these guys go home empty handed? No, but their hit rate would pick up if they also made sure that the woman they were wooing also felt incredibly unique as well.

Everyone – regardless of whether they’re a man or a woman – suspects that they’re unique at the core of their being. Taken to its extremes, this “uniqueness” will manifest itself as either loneliness or high self regard. Common sense would suggest that whenever you’re interacting with someone else you can either pick up on a point of difference about them and make them feel bad about it (by judging them) or make them feel good about it – by commenting favorably on that point of difference.

Now let’s tie this all back in to the subject at hand: seducing a woman.

What you have to be doing is make a woman feel both good AND unique. You can achieve both aims by commenting on some aspect of her appearance or her being that you simply haven’t found in any other woman. It doesn’t matter if this is true or not. What matters is that she feels that here is a guy who is savvy enough to pick up some unique aspect about her that all the other guys are missing. And what’s more, if you’ve noticed that particular aspect about her, she’ll be wanting to know what other favorable things you’ve noticed about her … and if she’s thinking that way, then she’s definitely going to want you to stick around.

You could call it the “princess” phenomenon: that part of every woman’s psyche that believes she has so much to give if only the right man would “discover” her. Regardless of whether your seductive intentions are short or long term: play on this phenomenon and make her feel as she’s “a woman” – the likes of which you haven’t come across before – and the rewards will come thick and fast.

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Whilst there are certain principles that can broadly apply when it comes to seducing women, it’s a fool that believes (or teaches) that there’s a one-size-fits all approach.

If you want to know how to seduce a woman, then you first need to determine what type of women she is. There are some psychologically tested methods for doing this. The best coach I’ve found in this arena is Vin DiCarlo. His Pandora’s Box program shows you how to instantly read any woman’s mind. Once you’ve done that, you’ll adjust your seduction approach depending on what type of woman she is. But don’t let me steal Vince’s thunder …

>>Click Here To Visit Pandora’s Box<<

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